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Saturday, December 29, 2012

Episode 146 Discussion: 14th Dec 2012

Test of Love - Madhu, Do you love RK or Rishabh ? Madhu fails.
Episode 146  Discussion: 14th Dec 2012
http://www.india-forums.com/forum_posts.asp?TID=3343987

Episode Events
Continuing from the previous episode, Madhu asks RK to repeat what he said. They walk back to the farmhouse, where RK repeats his love confession. Madhu is happy and soon the duo share few romantic movements with reasons as to why RK loves Madhu so much, what is it about her that attracts him. Madhu too wants to confess that she too loves him and RK says he already knows that. They kiss. Then RK asks Madhu to say what she wanted to. Madhu talks about how much she loves him, RK asks how much she loves him and what can she for him. She says she can do anything and he is her world. RK then remembers Dipali's words that Madhu loves not the real him, but RK the Superstar that is known to the rest of the world, RK then decides to test Madhu. He asks Madhu to accompany him to wherever he goes leaving aside all his star's life. He forwards his hand with all expectation and apprehension. Madhu starts to give her hand, then remembers her promise given to her mother-in-law to unite her with her son, then remembers Trishna's curse that Madhu will never have happiness and finally Shamsher that Padmini no longer lives at his house. Madhu withdraws her hand. RK is extremely hurt and feels rejected and lost. He is angry and blurts out that you too are like others and do not love me. You are just after my RK The Superstar personality and hence not coming away. Madhu is shocked.


Test of Love theme discussion 
Page 10 - Charu (the required surrender), 
Page 12, 13, 14, 15 - discussion by kt25, SD, Charu, Soundarya, kodai, zoya_naziya, MarathiMulgi

Critical commentary from Vijitha Rajan on Telly Tadka ...we can again go back to it and read what she says. First time ever on TellyTadka, they atleast took a stand, instead of just praising it.

TEST of LOVE : MEIEJ
http://www.tellytadka.net/telly-tadka-spice/test-lovemadhubalaek-ishq-ek-junoon/



Viewer Involvement in Fictional Story Development - Release & Acceptance of our Pain
Pages 16 to 18 Writers - 
Priya (kt25), Bhakti, SD , Hima(himbin), alexch, Charu, Vani, Kodai, Soundarya, DovesView

My Take
Episode gets a C rating.

Everything of it is Super CONTRIVED Drama. Very poor execution of the separation theme or rather the TEST of LOVE theme.

TEST of LOVE between two lovers is never wrong. Every couple once in a while challenges that, because it feels great to do that, to know how much the other loves you. Its an act of Shringara itself.

So the theme is not wrong at all from the CVs.  What is completely wrong is the execution of it.  They needed a Dipali to throw challenge, they needed a Radhaji and Trishna for failing the challenge. So the essence of Shringara element is not there at all for each other, but more for relationships they should not be concerned about in their personal and private and secluded moments.

To what extent can writers throw their characters in pits ? Abominable act to 
  • to show a Rishabh Kundra repeatedly thinking about Dipali. If they needed to focus on his insecurities, why they did not employ techniques of HIMSELF wording the same words that Dipali said. So when his mind repeats the words in MASCULINE Voice, we the viewers will not pay attention to Dipali.
  • to show Madhu, who was so GONER for Rishabh Kundra, suddenly remembers her promise given to his Mother, months back, and remembers Trishna's Bad-Dua (Curse). For MAdhu's act there is NO recourse at all, Because, why would a positive spirited girl like Madhu remember Trishna in that crucial moment. Till date Madhu was never shown to be a diffident or insecure girl like RK is. So why the hesitation. And what kind of lesbian tendencies that Madhu has towards Radhaji that she put Radha on a top priority right in front of an ever-ready explosive bomb of her husband. Thinking from my point of view, it is betrayal itself from mind.
CVs,
You may show us n reasons of rationality to accept the weaknesses you showed for Rishbala, but its plain UNACCEPTABLE to create a CONTRIVED drama. It clearly shows, you are running out of tricks, armour, ammunition to keep your story interesting and dynamic. Today, infact it was plain boring to watch the episode. I am not even disgusted or angry to go on a rant. I was just plain bored with your technical attention. The resounding echo of RK's confession...was it needed ? I plugged my ears to stop getting embarrased feelings. And what was that poor editing mix ...spoiling of a scene's aura and build up with rude interruptions of Radhaji-Dipali-Bittuji drama and Trishna-Shamsher-Padmini drama ? And the way you tried to bring TEST of LOVE theme in the romantic story,...were you copying the melodrama  of movies from 70's and 80's like teenage love story ? How can a star just leave all his commitments in the dead of night ? Fine the man was insane and testing his lover, no problem...but isn't the purpose of drama also to entertain viewers ? So do you think viewers will buy your ploy ? 


Interruption
How can at crucial moment of a Kiss to Happen be rudely interrupted ? Plain unfathomable.
The drama for the first time had become boring to me. This is not good. 
The kiss was there behind the parda and as scene shifts. But it was plain rude, not to show the after effect. Rude to viewers, because they made us invest our emotion and then they dash it. Its like buying a bubble stock. All money wasted.

The only intelligent piece of drama was ...Nepotism theme.
Sikky and Kuku had asked lot of times for RK to help Sikky get a film offer.
Now Trishna, who has the mean heart to curse unhappiness for RK and Madhu, now wants Shamsher to go and beg RK for propping Trishna's career. Can anything be more selfish than this. Anyways, I had been waiting for this to occur from months and finally you show it.

Can we hope a lift from this awfully gone wrong execution? I don't think so. The episode goes down in history as a super wrong decision-making. If this was indeed a part of the story, then a higher degree of BAD EXECUTION is attributed to your story presentation skills. Because none of the undercurrents proved that so far. Big Fat Failure...this week has been. 

Responded by others towards my episode take.
@Shri: I have to agree about the Dips overlay- that was just irritating- if it was in RK's voice then it could be brushed off as his insecurities, not something Dips planted. But I'm going with the Dips as devil advocate route, which makes this entire thing much easier to bear. But like I've been bleating for the past few weeks, I hope they'll start using others more effectivly and tone down on the Dips drama. her part is done- she has no more hold over RK. So please, let other people come in.
I don't know, maybe the CV's will surprise us going foward.

On RK-Rishabh Split.
Originally posted by Ananya
Originally posted by 0-SD-0

Its easier than that. RK is expression and Rishabh is the person that keeps hiding himself. Madhu has seen the withdrawing Rishabh who says to her "mat dekho aise mujhe" and retreats to couch. She called that Rishabh back to her bed as RK with RK dialogues.


No way, the girl cannot know when the man her Pati becomes RK and when he becomes Rishabh. She knows that she loves Rishabh and that the only way to reach Rishabh is through RK as the bridge.

Today her heart would have broken anyways...if RK was using his masculine voiced insecurity and Madhu said RK without her alluding to Rads or Trishna and Shamsher. Its just insulting for the hero and heroine to give so much importance to side kicks when none of these side kicks mattered to them when they fell in love. That's where the execution is all so ridiculous. They forget structure...Sigh!!!

That portrayal of just themselves with their words and thoughts would driven PATHOS into our hearts because then it becomes a real conflict where the RESOLVED Madhu by inadvertently inflicting pain to Rishabh, would still have given opportunity for Rishabh Kundra to truly understand, because she was being true. She loves both the impression(Rishabh) and expression(RK) of her Pati.

As simple as that...and the writers had ruin the pleasure for us...because in coming days, we will be tortured with Dips, Rads, Trishna and Shamsher drama.

Is it just me or anyone else is also having trouble understanding this RK vs Rishabh drama? I mean, to be honest we have not got to see enough of Rishabh nor has Madhu apart from a couple of incidents: his secret conversation with Bappa, his faith restored in Bappa and the lake front scene where he shares the journey of his life with Madhu. I think Rishabh is hidden too deep inside RK to come out so easily. To be frank, I find it hard to connect to Rishabh coz there are so many links still missing. It is much easier to connect to RK the man, if you leave aside RK the superstar. Another important aspect is, has RK fallen in love with Madhu as RK or Rishabh? I believe its the first one. Then whom is he fooling and testing? 



@SD:Please share your views on this. I would really appreciate.

RKLover(Ananya),
You would have got my answers by now if you read my posts on page 11. Specifically to Tanu, Charu and Zoya's posts...

Answer is RK has fallen in love, but Rishabh is making RK test Madhu because Rishabh doesn't want RK to lose himself in love as is that possessive of RK for himself and he cannot share RK with  Madhu.

What has been happening so far is that RK without any condition is protecting Rishabh and giving to his every insane demand. Rishabh basically wants to twist all RK's good feelings about love and warmth into aberrations like the expressionistic paintings...See Scream Painting, you will understand what I mean.

Now RK, since he loves Madhu, he is also protecting Madhu. And at one point RK will need to put his foot down to Rishabh's demands....like he did after the Party humilation -nafrat drama. Now Rishabh is again rearing his head and RK tried to control Rishabh a lot, but when Madhu failed him...yes Madhu failed RK today...Madhu did not fail Rishabh today, she failed RK, by taking that much time to give her hand...that much of hesitation is enough for Rishabh to raise a noise, which RK will be forced to listen, since he has to be parent to the child Rishabh here.

So after few days of drama, when Madhu's life is endangered, RK will go back to protect her again. And in the meantime, something will sure happen where RK will silence Rishabh against his demands in the present case of whether to love Madhu or not.

Gradually the story will be RK and Madhu together fighting Rishabh. And in the process, Rishabh will get weakened and RK the necessary strength and someone else to share his Rishabh burden.

Have you ever not broken yourself ? As in I split myself into the weak Shridevi and the Strong Shridevi when I was rebuilding myself. I did this after I watched the Challenger/Challenge Movie ...Asian movie with karate or Kung fu as the art used. I actually was so inspired with the movie because it tells you how poised you have to be if you are to win over your enemies and that win just is not about skill to aggression but also a skill to defend yourself, identifying your weaknesses, strengths of yourself and your opponents and strike when conducive. Primarily the vision, the goal of the game has to be defined. So applied this on myself, with actually a detailed strategy write-up in the same martial art style but applied to my life around my weaknesses and my strengths. I needed to protect myself. Basically the weaker and sensitive part will never die and will always need to be protected, but reconciliation is achieved when the weaker just listens to the stronger one instead of being demanding and becoming the ruler of the stronger.


Test of Love - Never wrong to test when you actually love someone or trust someone. Sometimes its peremptory demand from the extremely loved one.
One thing is sure from today's episode, no matter how poorly they executed it by involving clunk plots such Dips entering RK's room to brainwash him and Madhu visiting Chawl to have Trishna curse her and tell about Padmini-Shamsher fallout...They showed that Madhu will love him, but will never completely put him above everything else. She is gonna always fail him and he(RK) will have to keep learning to live with rejection and yet loving her. And Madhu will always fail to understand his need until she realizes that she hurt him bad and tries to compensate that hurt by loving him more. 


He(RK) will want her to love him in all trust and she will fail because she will always hold something back from him about her. If you see it is RK who has shared his past with Madhu and she has not shared anything about her to RK by herself. She instead shared with Rads rather freely (that's why I said lesbian tendencies in my Episode Discussion thread), but she doesn't share anything with RK. She only told him one thing...about her biological father who tried to kill her...and later it was RK who asked her for the whole story.

Madhu has problem trusting RK. That was shown this Monday or Tuesday I guess, when she said, "Dhoka to nahin doge na". You cannot be distrusting even before giving the person a chance. That is plain negativity as things doomed for bad. That morning RK was in super goner mood and hence did not get angry, but it was enough to hurt the sensitive Rishabh inside him, had Rishabh decided to raise his head.

Part of RK problem, which was poorly executed today in test of love was that he wants to be himself when with Madhu and hence will not fear to bare his heart and head before her, if he feels reassured by her that he can do it by trusting himself with her. That's where the complex subject of do you love Rishabh or RK. It was executed badly, because the writers can never be sure how viewers will understand complex subjects, so trying to show through RK as the superstar with material wealth and Rishabh as the real man. which is not actually true. RK can be real RK as well. 

But that question of "Can I trust myself with you Madhu?" in the deeper sense of Test of Love from RK end is where Madhu failed him today. She couldn't freely give her hand and hold his hand and then talk her objections. Instead she chose to retain her hand, chose to keep quiet, maintain her problems as hers. In Ganesha track too she, went behind RK's back to restore his faith. Her folly almost cost him his life. This secretive missions of her are going to be detrimental to either. In Shamsher arrest case, she went against RK and left the house in dead of night. She landed into lot of trouble. She and her family got saved because of RK. If RK was not intelligent, would he have been able to trust and forgive her ?

When Madhu encounters problems, she won't share them with her husband, when as a wife she should share information with him so that level of trust builds up between husband and wife. Instead she will hide things from him and try to tackle everything by herself. That act would actually endanger her and RK as well and RK will have clean up the mess. This is going to be sore point between them, why Madhu would not trust information with RK ? Illogical she is, and in her illogic she is going to hurt RK a lot. Why he loves her is because, this illogical woman is the only one who will allow him to be spontaneous and not be the RK superstar as she is that dumb and naive to conspire against him.

Madhu needs to learn to share herself with RK along with her duties to others, Please note...Loving is not equal to sharing yourself.

RK will now always have to be careful with her because he loves her madly and can lose himself anytime and knowing that she holds back part of her self, his pride will also get hurt if he tries to bare himself when it is not needed by her. He may trust her bit by bit if she starts to share herself with him. And boy! I have not seen Madhu do it. Not that there is a lot Madhu can tell about her past...but she hardly speaks to him. Does RK actually know who Madhu is other that her being a goner fo him ? 

They needed to know each other before they could have fallen in love. Alas, they fell in love without knowing each other. Ab bhugto !!! Now start learning about each other !!!

Responded by SD
Originally posted by kt25



@Shri - In response to your post for @charu you had mentioned that Madhu has been subjected to the test of love by RK and I understand him wanting to know how far she would go for him. But if we are talking about test for love shouldn't it be for both parties involved? 

As far as RK, she failed as a lover and a wife. But what about him? How did he fare in his test of love? The one that Madhu had not given him but still isn't it obvious that she was also testing him indirectly by saying no to going away with him.

Poor Madhu! I just feel terrible for her.
Priya,

No, both parties need not test each other at the same time. One gives the test and other takes the test. One at a time.

If you still want to think if Madhu tested RK and RK failed her...then it is the test for attending dinner. Madhu put RK to a test of love when he was not even prepared for it. She invited RK for lunch, an RK who was in zapped state, in dream-like stupor, while she was all on tentacles and hence apprehensive that he may not turn up...She voiced it..."Dhoka to nahin doge?" The Zapped RK didn't even realize he was being tested.  When he was actually leaving the mansion, he heard Radhaji and Bittuji making a big deal out of it, that he in anger did not feel it as test, but just as something that he did not want to make others feel great about it when he was hurting inside. And he remembered that he was being tested with him remembering "Dhoka" and her apprehensive eyes when it was already too late in the night.

In the second context above, I am not with you. She was not testing the way.
I don't feel terrible for Madhu. It was bound to happen. Both have hurt each other.
Its okay, if they both failed each other. Sky has not fallen. They will learn to pass if tested next time in the same manner (not a different situation).


Originally posted by manesha76



SD awesome post 
First of all i am glad that you made a separate post . You have written everything so beautifully . I always felt Madhu's trust towards RK is very less . I would not blame Madhu for that . Their marriage happened in unusual circumstances & RK is also very unpredictable . Madhu has yet to understand RK very well . I think now in next Track Rishabala's understanding will reach next level . I think both will start trusting eachother more . 

Thank you Manesha.

They trust each other for what they are individually. 
They don't trust each other for what they are to each other. They need to teach themselves to become a unit. For that they need to work together by becoming a team.

The reason for them to become the team is what the love confession was about. They love each other to limits. Misfortunately it did not turn out the way each expected the other to respond to their love, nevertheless it cannot be denied that they love each other. And hence they shall be together with the bond of love and they should try to infuse trust in their relationship as a unit now.

You know marriages work more when partners trust each other. Some marriages work with trust and married kind of love. In Rishbala's case, to make things difficult, they have had a marriage that either of them took time to accept. So now they consider themselves married, they confessed to each other that they love each other, now they should know their personalities, accept each other as they are and allow the marriage to function. That is where the conflict is now. Both of them still want to function independently of the other, just because they feel they cannot burden the other for fear of disapproval(Madhu) or unwantedness(RK).

So is the coming up track really about this ? Let's wait and watch.

Originally posted by stressrelief



nice post     rk and madhu love eachother but they dont trust eachother   i think cvs are doing it wrong way

Infact they are addressing it the right way.

Love and Trust are not the same.
They aid each other, but are not the same. 

Love is soft and tensile in bonding. It is endearing and emotional exaltation, pleasurable and can only exert so much. 

Trust is about belief, making it work and nothing about softness or bonding. It is strength when present and weakness when absent coz to have it makes one reliant, dependable and confident to care, execute or binds you to execute.

After pleasure and playtime, its always the homework to be taken care of 

Responded by AA
Wonderful analysis Shri and completely accurate. RK and Madhu's level of love for each other far exceeds their level of trust-on both sides. If RK trusted Madhu to the extent he's been proclaiming to all and sundry he would never have been instigated by Diputz's words and he would not have failed her based on a split second of hesitation.
There is also the fact that I don't think Madhu really believes that RK trusts her and so she does not trust him. Two reasons: 1) You've pointed out the circumstances in which they married- taking into account that and what he did before (breaking her trust via the press conference), those scars will take time to fade. It's a testemant to her insanity that she fell in love with him in the first place, baring his wounds to her or no. As you said, sharing yourself is not loving someone, and is infinately harder. 2) Whenever RK has shared something of himself to Madhubala, it has always been under emotional duress and he has always pulled back from her until she pushes. It gives the impression that he regrets sharing himself with her, and has no intention of doing so delibrately. Not an invitation for a heaping dollop of trust in return.
We talked about character flaws as well, remember? Madhu's has always been that she places others above herself- and what 2-3? months of marriage will not erase that. She placed Mukund above her own family interests, so why are we surprised that she thinks of Radha and Trishna? She will lose those traits as she has lost the others, along with way as she matures.
Finally way too early in the Rishbala relationship for them to trust each other the way both of them need. But I hope this track forces some character growth on Madhu so she can pave the way for a better relationship- a healthy relationship is not something RK can foster in my mind.
Hope this rambling made some sense- can't be as awesome as your post, but you do inspire me to write this stuff so you have to pay the price.

Responded by Charu
wonderful analysis Shri, not just this one but all the replies too..it was a delight reading the entire thread..

frm this point on, the story will progress in a different manner ..bec. now they r in love and they have confessed their love to each other ! although, RK is angry, and i have no idea where it will lead him , the fact remains unchanged that Madhu is becoming his obsession and it's growing on him day by day..look at the way he scolded Rajesh for leaving Madhu alone and how he reacted when Madhu was about to get hurt with the glass pieces on the floor ! in the precap too, he cud not stop himself frm caring for her...now his love will be with him forever and ever !! he will not let go off her... whether Madhu loves RK or Rishabh, whether she loves him for his money or charm, he loves her frm the bottom of his heart , that should be sufficient for him...therez no way by which he cannot feel the warmth and love frm Madhu's end , it will melt him one day..

both of them working as a team is difficult for the time being..they're already heading for a separation..otherwise how will Balraj cause damage to Madhu and Padmini? Trishna's curse will work for the time being...either he will send her to chawl or she will go on her own...RK will appear towards the end of Balraj track, most likely...the only good thing which they showed is the confession, which will bind them together , whether therez separation or MU ..perhaps the story will be back on track after VD rejoins ..

Originally posted by pnars



Why can't our serials be as sophisticated as these analyses? They actually are, I suppose, but the execution inevitably fails :(

Coming to our beloved couple, I read through the thread and am reluctantly coming round to your pov that Madhu needs to open herself up. By the same token, shouldn't RK trust her more as well? He set up a test doomed for failure yesterday (yes it was - he kept pushing and pushing till she said no), moreover a test designed by his ex of all people (wait till Madhu hears of his - the Sherni will really unsheath her claws then).

Then my dear, think hard. Was it actually Dipali who drove RK to confess his feelings for Madhu, or was it Madhu who made him insecure ? Forget what was shown. Feel what you saw the outcome as.

The guy was happy silently loving his Biwi. He had no expectations from her, to love him back.
Then she starts loving him. He notices that, feels it and yet stays or shows as if nothing is going on. But already the pleasure was getting into his head. Then Biwi goes for a sixer with Karva Chauth, a thing he cannot ignore...though he tries not to come for his principles, he decided to go back to her.

So who called him forcibly to her ? Madhu.

Then,they have a beautiful evening. Two people in love...can they really help each other ? No. He still tries to go back to his couch. She manages to keep him by her side.

Who raised his hopes ? Madhu

Then she invited him to a family lunch in the dead of night like to show him off a trophy. Bhai Kis baat ke liye ? God! I could not understand that. Not that I am not romantic. But I just plainly refuse to do illogical things. Then in morning, he is still dazed and she is all serious. She is apprehensive that he may not come. So indirectly did she not put him to test ? And like her he too had not realized that this was his test which he had to pass. 

So he failed her test.

By this time he snapped out of love-lorn state and he is actually asking himself, how far he can trust himself with her. 

Who has trust issues?  Him. Does MB know about that ? Yes. Didn't he tell her ? Yes. Does she have to remember ? No. Can he hope that she understands him ? Yes.

That's where the problem is. Its not just his test to see how far Madhu loves him. Its a test for him to know his THRESHOLD on how much he can allow himself to be exposed to her in this love -- the giving and expectation of the return.

If Madhu has same madness towards his questions and answers just like her actions, then he is validated. But then, there was a mismatch between words and actions. On one side she said, you are my Duniya and on another side she did not give her hand when he asked to come away with him.

If I was in Madhu's place, when RK confessed where the car broke down, I would have been dazed and thinking. I would not have nagged him again to repeat his confession back at the farmhouse, only to hold back myself.

If RK thinks he is jinxed in love and therefore needed to be reassured by Madhu that she will always be with him, whichever manner that essence comes up, and therefore the test of love for his threshold limit of expectation to contain his disappointment levels, to stay in control, MB also felt responsible for all other people other than RK. For her RK was a Pleasure principle which could be enjoyed later after she attends to the cares of the world. She did not realize that infact it was other way round that RK was hurting and he needed her badly more than anyone else, and he rightly said, you love RK and not Rishabh, because the pleasure principle that Madhu felt was from RK persona and she failed to see the other hurting Rishabh, I guess now she understands.

Now the question of Madhu testing RK's love...many are outraged and have said many things...I will say that, RK will always pass in MB's test when push comes to shove. Why because, he does not raise hopes like MB and then he obliges the unsaid expectation...that is his character. RK biggest point of loving MB is that he loves her inspite of her wounding him bad. Please don't think that she does not hurt him. She hurts him all the time, but the guy sees her good intentions and therefore asks himself to let it go.

Others Takes
By Tanu
They should have packed RK's reasons for falling in love with Madhu in yday's episode itself… I wouldn't be feeling so lost today! The impact of those beautiful lines was lost due to the last few minutes of madness. This is a beautiful story so I am willing to be patient… though I would love to whack each character on their head today.
What happened today was sad… one bogged by insecurity and the other bound by sense of duty. Though no one can be blamed, I wish sanity had prevailed on both… but then if the rational mind had been at work the beautiful confession would not have come.
As romantic as it sounds even the thought of RK leaving behind his hard earned success is not done! He might find the entire stardom hollow… but he enjoys his job, doesn't he? So he better not be serious about it. And I just wish Madhu had thought about that when questioned. It seemed farfetched to actually believe RK and Madhu would have disappeared never to return. That is something I wanted both of them to realise which they sadly didn't. Now I really want RK to sit back and think if he wants to leave RK behind? Def not! He might say a hundred things but he is never going to leave Radha to the mercy of the Bhatias and disappear so why hold it against Madhu. I completely understand that he just needed her to put her hand in his without a second thought… I relate to his vulnerability and disappointment…yet I felt he should have trusted himself… trusted the belief that made him stop her from admitting her love because he already knew. I am sure the faith will come back... matter of time. 
Coming to Madhu…forgetting what I told RK… I just wish u had given ur hand in his… allowed yourselves to settle down… may be even take a long holiday…but convince him to return. That was not to happen so time to go into damage control. Please connect the dots… Dipali's conversation, RK's disappearance, his confession and his heartbreak. RK loves you Madhu, he loves you for standing upto him, fighting him… so just go ahead and fight. If you love the man, he is worth it.
After seeing this episode… I realised I like RK more than Rishab! RK is much more fascinating, strong as a character. Watching the last scene when Rishab just crumbled seeing Madhu's hesitation made me realise how strong RK had to be to hold fort. It is important for him believe that RK does not only stand for materialistic world… he is lot more. He needs to realise that he has fallen in love with Madhu as RK. You listen to his reasons for falling in love with Madhu… They were RK's reason… not Rishab's.  More importantly if RK vs Rishab is going to be full blown track, then in the end I want RK and Rishab as one.
Precap  - did he just drop Madhu off at the chawl? If yes, then he better head out to the farmhouse himself. Till he gets a sane head on his shoulders he isnt going infront of Dipali. I wonder how Madhu-Malik interaction will pan out. Will she ignore him ya cry on his shoulders? How will Malik react? stand up for his daughter or his crime robbed him of that right :-s What Bittuji does to save his fave lovestory is to be seen :)
I wish Malik doesn't ask RK for a favour… else this guy will be further disillusioned thinking that people only use him. Trishna, a warning… you don't insult RK's biwi and expect him to grant you a favour.  
I liked it when Malik said he believes Padmini will come home someday. Bring on Balraj to get this story moving. However I still want RK to play a part in Malik-Padmini story, if there is any.
This time around a weekend is welcome… the week has been a roller coaster ride… need to cool off to gear up for a not so pleasant week next week.
By apolloartermis
A bittersweet episode which leads us to the next chapter of Rishbala's love story- what that is, I have no clue.
Basically everything we've been saying over the past few weeks came to the fore today- RK's love is fed by Madhu's, his care is fed by Madhu's- he knows how much she loves him- there is no doubt in his mind now that she has so fervently declared her feelings. I found it interesting that he said that she loves RK, not Rishab- while for us the two have been blending, it's clear in RK's mind that the berlin wall is standing between him and Rishab.
What is even more illuminating is what he said to Madhu: You are my hearbeat, my love, my obsession, my madness. Having given himself over so fully, how can he extricate RK from Madhu now? The look of devastation on his face sent a twinge down my heart, and that's kudos to VD's acting- but I was equally devastated by the look on Madhu's face. The poor girl didn't even get 10 minutes to savor the love confession, let alone the kiss! before the man she loves accuses her of loving his veneer, not him. How insulting for someone like her, who has always looked past his trappings. And now, she'll have to cross that river of fire for him to prove that she loves him- RK and Rishab, not one or the other. Phase two of their love story.
But these painful times will only add flavor to their destinies- however much they want to stay away from each other, however much they hurt each other, they can never be apart. RK loves Madhu. When he hated her he pursued her with a single minded intensity. Now that crazy love is mixed in with that renewed hate/hurt- what lengths will he go to? What will be his goal?
That is the intersting part for me- RK loves Madhu, and knows that Madhu loves RK (not Rishab, whatever, keep you delusions you infant). So what is the next step? Do you punish her for not loving you the way you want her to? How do you punish her? Do you start severing all her bonds so she has no choice but to turn to you? What do you do, superstar?
In Madhu's case I figure she'll be practical- forgive Shamsheer, get her family together, and go back to fixing her relationship with RK. If during the course of this she can smack Diputz around a few times, I won't be unhappy. Again I will reiterate this to CV's if by some miracle they are reading this: her function is done- please start giving importance to other players now.
It's actually very exciting how this track is going to play out- only because I am hoping CV's will not go the cliched seperation route. Please, try something new. I have no idea what's going to happen next. Let's strap in for a wild ride, people. Those are the most fun.LOL
One thing: In the precap, where is he taking her? I like how he now cannot stay away from her at all. The relationship that started from the head has now fully taken over his heart. And he can't cut this relationship because the intensity is coming from both ends- it's not one-sided.
Also- Leela, I know you hate Radunce- I'm not her biggest fan either. But please cut our poor Madhu some slack? It's not about radunce, it's about RK, and healing RK's wounds- think of it that way, it'll help with the blood pressure

By Hima
Saw the episode in bits and am very disappointed with the accusation of Madhu loves RK and not Rishabh...Even if the CV's wanted to bring in Rishabh's insecurities it could have made sense if it was on the line of Madhu not prioritizing him and giving importance to others over him...That could have went with his possessive streak and needy self...Yes...rich and famous who are always swarmed by people for their selfish reasons could be vulnerable into doubting the intent of everyone even the genuine ones...but,there isn't even a single instance that could make RK believe that about Madhu...It just doesn't add up at all...
                   or is it that he himself despises the weak and needy Rishabh so much that he thinks its impossible for anyone to fall in love with that persona...hence is justifing that the attraction and deewangi of madhu is for the strong,famous,rich,successful and handsome RK and not for the weak,vulnerable,needy,pitiable and looser Rishabh...did he fall into the trap of these self depreciating feelings...?? but, doesn't he know that Madhu fell not for the jaanwar,heartless RK but,for the humane,heartwala Rishabh who infact has even become the qwaazi and moula for her...The misunderstanding seemed so baseless ... I am only hoping RK would soon realize it and we are saved from this nonsensical torture...

By Hima on RK versus Rishabh
After watching the drama,reading everyone's ideas, analyses and my own effort to try to understand this complex character, this is my take on RK and Rishabh...I  hope I made sense...let me know..  Tongue

RK is the mind and Rishabh is the heart of the very same person...Rishabh/The heart is very deep,intense,volatile and frag ail too...he can't see logic,is not practical and doesn't understand the convenient, necessary requirements or adjustments of life...its even more hard for him in the matters of loved ones...11 year old Rishabh with the heart of gold came face to face with the brutal realities of ife when his father died and mother remarried...the trauma at that tender age left him scarred...he couldn't cope with it,make sense of it and the way he dealt his anger,hurt,bitterness is by closing his heart and giving rise to RK who doesn't posses a heart that beats but, a mind that is logical, shrewd,receptive and not only understand but can even manipulate the worldly dealings...he compensates for Rishabh's lack of self esteem and boosts his ego and lives with pride...now this RK is not a different person...he is another part of that very same boy...the mind minus the heart...he is menacing and nasty and puts up a tough exterior so as not to let even his own thoughts (from his mind)  reach his heart (that is Rishabh) in fear that they could turn into  tender feelings...This is to protect fragile Rishabh/his heart who knows only to love and feel and has no clue of how to deal or cope with any possible heartache..to let go and move on...

          On the party night Radhaji confronts RK and tells him of how hurt his father would be ...the tough RK becomes vulnerable and lets his thoughts of attraction,admiration,pity, sympathy on MB along with his own guilt and sense of wrong find their way in to his heart/Rishabh and makes him go soft on his enemy MB...from then on it was always Rishabh/heart and RK/mind who have been dealing,interacting and reacting to his biwi...In the matters of love his heart/Rishabh overpowers his mind/RK,his logical self and hence becomes very fragile and open to hurt and  fear,the result of his past trauma which is left untreated...In the past two episodes its Rishabh who sensed MB near his farm house,it was Rishabh who confessed his feelings,who said he knew of Madhu's love even before she said it loud and its the same Rishabh/heart who gave rise to fear,assumed the worst even before listening, was disappointed,dejected and heartbroken...but,that is all today...tomorrow the Rishabh who could sense and trust the genuineness of his biwi along with RK who is logical  are going to fight out the fear and doubt...MB with her endurance,patience and compassion is going to strengthen, blend and bring the balance of both his heart and mind i.e.Rishabh and RK in to one...and that would be the completion of healing of the devastated and traumatised 11 year old innocent boy... Smile

Originally posted by kodai

The discussions here really helped me get over a lousy episode - they just spoiled it as no one remembers  the beauty of the love confession.


About what RK has done for Madhu, I think he has kept his end of the relationship as far as
 "T-R-U-S-T" goes. Not coming to lunch when you have promised to come makes one feel let down, but it's not end of the world. He came for Karwa-Chauth, inspite of ego, principles because not coming would mean not acknowledging the relationship.  

RKreminds me of this sentence from Pride and Prejudice regarding Darcy and Wickham - "One has all the goodness and one has all the appearance of it" ( or something similar). RK has all the goodness and hardly any  appearance of it.

Reg Madhu, Madhu says He is her Duniya and when he tests it, when push comes to shove, she  backs off.  The least she could have done is to give her hand and  later think on the logistics of implementing it.  When someone asks reassurance and it's their lifeline, you don't ponder on it, you just give them the lifeline.

responded by SD to Kodai's post
Kodai,
You made my morning. I was not so depressed yesterday, as I got today here and read those last few pages and few pms (some have not decided to spoil the thread with agonized rants). And I was pulled into the pain (very hard), that I steered cleared of yesterday.

All of that you said there, each para grows upon me.  
And @ bold ...not just reassurance being beseeched through eyes, but being requested by a hand forwarded. How much more of the need can be expressed so directly and how much more of hold-back one can have at not taking the hand. 

Blame the CVs for it ? Yes, I want to. But then really Shridevi!?  Do you want to crucify them? Hell No !!!. For at least they broke the bubble between RIshbala. For both the persons since Ganesha track, seemed to be losing themselves, now at least they will go back to what they are and if they still love each other to madness, may as well do something about it. The drama was getting boring anyways with Dipali's induced catalysis. Wasn't it ?

On Radhaji and Madhu relationship
Originally posted by leelaa9



Radha Bhatia ki jai ho.
Even at such a time, after everything that happened, *that* is the first person that comes to Madhu's mind as a reason?
Trishna, Shamsher, they all came to mind afterward. *Radha* first? That godforsaken *promise* to restore him again as son to the authority of that wretched disloyal mother?
I *wanted* Madhu to refuse because RK being RK, there was no way he would be content with bluffing about leaving stardom and wealth behind.
If he said such a thing, he would never be sure of Madhu unless he actually did it and she still stuck with him.
But I thought Madhu would refuse so that she might sort out the situation for Shamsher, without an understanding of just how crucial it was to her happiness with RK that she agree to leave with him right away.
I did *not* think she would be dreaming of reunting mother and son after that mother proved the sort of mother she is after a few months of doting affection.
For God's sake, Madhu, couldn't you please have multiplied that by 10+ and magnified it a bit, and understood the basic sense of letting that promise go in the way that Bappa Himself resolved it for you so that you wouldn't have to reunite someone you love with such an epitome of self-deluding disloyalty?
You brought Radha's son back from death. It is enough.
What a wretched reason to foster misunderstanding. Oh, damnit.
First Radha and Dips were a taint on the entire karvachauth track, and now Radha manages to unknowingly help Dips on the strength of Madhu remembering a promise made when she didn't know that Radha was the sort of person who never stands by 'her adored child' when it's actually desperately needed.
Damnit, RK's insecurity would have worked even if a beggar from the streets had known enough to say exactly what Dips said.
It was never about him proving a point to Dips.
It was about proving to himself that this time the person who claims to love him is true and loyal, not fickle. Not another Radha or Dipali.
And Madhu is everything he has ever dreamt of - loyal, true, and absolutely deserving of trust.
But her flaw is that she is naive. And naivete has shattered trust? Oh, damnit, CVs!
Responded by myself to Leela
regardless of what others say about your Rads dislike, but I am quite objectively reading your take.

Against the contrived edition of the CVs and throwing in Rads in Madhu's memory, as a viewer, I could totally agree with what you wrote there. Because that memory recall from Madhu was nothing short of lesbian tendencies rather than moderate love for a mother-in-law.

Madhu's state of mind was well capable of ignoring her passionate husband right in front of her. It just shows what a strong lesbian that Rads has on her. Everyone here keeps defending Madhu, that initially when RK was the jaanwar, only Rads was kind to her and hence MAdhu's token kinship in that kindred spirit. But now kindred spirit can easily be called lesbian tendencies. A female company is so much better and full of security than a turbulent company with a male. That's half the reason why lesbian tendency stays even when one is capable to get attracted to other sex.

I will not care and just speak my mind. If CVs show this kind of contrived drama, then they have to take my extreme perceptions of it. My husband ,,,or for that matter my brother...how many times, they have not used this word to explain a certain woman's inexplicable liking or care for other woman. And both of of them are of my age ..peers we are. This is the society we belong to.

So writers be careful what they show. Even my mother would not have liked today;s drama..this Rads angle.

Tuesday, December 25, 2012

Episode 142 Discussion: 10th Dec 2012

Excited Madhu and Spellbound RK
Episode 142  Discussion: 10th Dec 2012


Episode Events
Continuing from Friday...RK and Madhu have an intimate dance over Bahon Ke Darmiyaan song, as the radio plays it. Desire flares especially with RK. He cups Madhu's face to kiss her when he is rudely interrupted by the radio making a noise and stopping the song. Both cut themselves off from their trance and decide to go home. Back home, Rads acts as policewoman trying to find out where was Madhu and why was she unreachable over phone. The questioning leads Madhu and RK to tell that they had dinner outside, Dips who is listening to this conversation is super pissed and is all green in jealousy. Back in their room, Madhu is all happy thinking of the date she had with RK. She is reminiscing it all in enjoyment until she sees RK.  RK diffuses the kissing related awkwardness though a joke of residing ghost "Kanjamma" at Natraj studio. The couple share a laugh/tease. As RK gets up to go to the couch to sleep, Madhu slyly using Big boss dialogues and makes RK sleep on the bed. Before they fall asleep, Madhu asks RK if he can come to her mother's place for luncheon. RK agrees. Morning Madhu gets ready to go to Padmini. RK is watching Madhu getting ready. He looks as of he is completely under a spell. There in chawl, Padmini, Shamsher and Trishna are having a fight..that Padmini should return back to Shamsher's house for MAdhu's sake.


Telly Tadka Review
http://www.tellytadka.net/tellywood-bytes/telly-gossip/telly-review-shows-44/

My take
Excited Madhu and Spellbound RK

Rating: B
The episode was good but had lot of foreboding tension to come. I mean, I have weak heart towards tension. Really...so I had those really tense feelings looking at Dipali...she gave really bad vibes with Jealousy dripping down as if it could never end. She makes me go tremulous. Actually all the women today (Dips, Rads, Madhu, Padmini and Trishna) set me off making me quite nervous and confused. My heart beat went up...

The chawl party
Padmini, Shamsher and Trishna scene, that was blown over the proportions. Two episodes back, Peach was expressing disapprobation on this scene of why the need for Madhu to be overly concerned if Padmini does not stay with Shamsher.  And I said may be, they are thinking like I think of why Padmini had to abandon Shamsher now... But now watching today's scene, with hyper-reactive Padmini, crazed and envious Trishna towards Madhu and Stony Shamsher with those dialogues, made it all forceful and unpleasant to me. Trishna seemed to be determined to ruin planned luncheon for Madhu and her husband. What does it matter if Padmini lives in Shamsher's house or Shamsher's sister's house. Either ways, Padmini has not abandoned Maliks and still is the moocher that she is. So what's the big deal ? And why won't Madhu understand Padmini ? She can very well understand Padmini. It is altogether different if Madhu -the daughter who forgave Shamsher;  thinks Padmini is wrong, but then still Padmini can definitely have independent mind and decide what she can do. Its not that she is Shamsher's wife. Bottomline for me...over the board scene and I got nervous seeing the three people ...with those dialogues. Gave me all vibes of bundle of confusion !

Dips Bhatia
She is one character, that I need not be bothered about. And previously I used to have barf attacks ate her plans and then I got insulated off her acts. But today, the bitch made me writhe. She is trying to be a snake now because I see her arrogance lost...that means her poison has now potent...I shudder.

Rads and her clunky Phone call
Does she need to call Madhu repeatedly when she is with her husband ? How does it even matter to Rads that she is making a call to Madhu ? Whose safety she was bothered about ? Was it OTT or plot clunk devise by the writers to declare it to RK Mansion that RK-MB had a dinner date together ? Do they really have to ruin the evening for husband and wife ? Unless the writers have started tolling bells of alarm for the viewers to get ready with our life jackets, oxygen masks as the RKPlane is witnessing Turbulence !!  Anyways the writers made RK tell the viewers that they were waiting for Madhu and RK to have dinner. Now question, since when it has become customary for Rads and Dips to wait up for RK and Madhu ? Clunk...total clunk.

Rishbala in Studio
The husband and wife or rather the artist-Muse continued their enjoyment into the next act of dancing over a very intimate song. And like actors whose chemistry oozes out when doing such scenes, desire too shows up between the two...more on RK side, but then MB was the one inviting it. She had to withdraw her hands, which was nothing but coyly challenging the man  Well, they tried to be honest with the dancing, but then undercurrent of their passion for each other makes them want to go for greater intimacy until the radio decides to have its presence felt. LOL! Both of them heave a sigh...They didn't show how the car drive was back home. Were they completely tight lipped each looking at the road ahead ? I wonder.

Rishbala in Bedroom
Thank God! RK came back to bed. And they started their antics of looking at each other when the other is not looking. This was natural and endearing to me...as it means each is privately having thoughts about the other ...over all the things that transpired between them. But coming to this point, was excellently done with that "kanjama ki Atma" narration. Hey Guys and Gals, I don't what that it.  Is it a new film ? Or is it a horror show ? Whatever... RK seems to have thought a lot while he was in shower/changing, how to allay the awkwardness and he is successful. He gets to know one more thing about Madhu, that she is afraid of Bhoot. Well the audience already knew that Madhu is afraid of Bhoot-Pischach-Aatma-Pret, as even Shamsher could scare her very recently.

The morning after 
Quickly done scene with all entertaining romantic elements. The wet hair, the slow waking up, the neharofying of Biwi, the Biwi coming and telling husband the day's itinerary with that shooting of the arrow to RK...Tum Dhoka to nahin doge na ? Everything was fine until the foreboding ill word Dhoka...What was that Madhu ? Why that kind of failing premonitions you have ? You say, you love your man, and yet you doubt him ? Fine even if he forgot in the morning, it does not mean that you can use such a big word as "Dhoka", unless you still do not trust him from your heart. So you are only attracted to him and do not yet completely know him and hence your insecurities. RK will definitely think Biwi does not trust him.

And I am having a problem with Madhu's character here. Is it again a clunk device ? That Madhu who believed that RK will come to break her fast on Karva Chauth, how come this Madhu now has doubts if RK will come of not ? Where is that doubt stemming from ? That RK may not like her parents, but then why would you use the word "Dhoka". CVs this is not sitting with me. Whatever you plan to show it to me, I am plain confused. I know Madhu is a muddlehead...but then Madhu is not this kind of Muddlehead. 

RK and Madhu dynamics
In all of this they made RK again the inscrutable guy, just absorbing and acting on as led by Madhu. As usual, like since the beginning of the story, RK was only responding to Madhu...at studio, at Rads questioning and Madhu's answers, rescuing her, in bedroom, dispersing Madhu's awkwardness/happy stares at him, and finally in the morning again clock-set by Madhu and her POA. He will need to see things to his brim and then he will act...until that bhaiyon aur behno; RK will rest until anyone of these women upset his equilibrium. 

Madhu's invitation to RK at her Mom's place for Luncheon and how important the dinner at Maayka was for Madhu. 

Madhu was prepared to confess her love for RK without going to Padmini with her love letter. So basically she need not wait for Padmini's approval. Padmini already approved RK for Madhu 1) at the hospital and 2) when she asked Madhu to take it NEXT level- as in Full marriage...as in physical intimacy.

So Madhu's action of taking RK to Padmini's place was actually showing off to her Mom, that, "yes I am taking it to the next level...and its not just me, a self deluding fool I felt over last few days, its RK also since ...he was almost kissing me..."

So I understand Madhu's attaching importance...but seldom you need to show off. But then Madhu is a GIRL...A HAPPY INNOCENT GIRL...she wanted to show off first thing in the morning to her mother...she is like this baby who needs to share her happiness with someone...like kids share their story or show off their achievement, or show off their prize. So RK is that trophy, achievement etc. I mean I get all that seriousness. That's why I am cursing the CVs, that they did not let me enjoy the romance for one even one day and they jump into next track. The beautiful morning between the couple marred by a foreboding. Its heavy feeling. 

The CVs need to learn to keep the mood undisturbed if they really need good TRPs and storytelling. Else...LUTF nahin milega...Moms are actually smarter...TV dekhte dekhte uth jaayege, aise scenes itne jaldi daal denge to. I guess...the CVs are running on a timeline to have a particular episode aired before TRP measuring starts from Dec 16th. Hence the race against time...

RK's response to Madhu's luncheon Invitation
And re Dhoka, focussing on RK's face due to absence of dialogues, I saw a registering face at apprehensive Madhu. I forgive Madhu's use of the word "Dhoka". I guess even RK let it go on that strong word as he is clearly under Madhu's spell and charm and himself dazed at his own actions. Once he is out of Madhu spell, his reaction and take will be different. I guess Madhu referred to Dhoka about this unpredictable character of RK, but then I am really intrigued when did Madhu know her husband under spell and no spell. Definitely there is story writers clunk coming up. They needed to build up angst and used a certain word. There is no reason to explain that.

On a serious note of advise for girls like Madhu who have husbands like RK, it is better not to use heavy words, because people like RK being more logically resolved in their fight to be perfect, they take everything seriously. So better Madhu reign RK tightly without using strong words that can set off RK on the path of mental debate.
Anyways, ignoring everything without the dialogues and just watching RK under spell  was endearing. Clearly Madhu was out of her spell. Watching her was like...wow he had made his move !!! She was so excited at that. I am gonna add my title now, as I got it now...It is ...Excited Madhu and Spell-bound RK

The best dialogue today was when he shuts her up saying...either you talk or I talk. Who is gonna listen if both talk and we need to call Bittuji for audience. 


Others Take
By AreYaar
Lovelyyy episode today :-)


The Baahon ke darmiyaan sequence was done very well...the choreographer of this show always does a good job and captures the mood of every song beautifully...today that mood was captured just right...the burgeoning feelings b/w them, the tenderness in the song even as there is passion...and then ofcourse the radio going poof to break the moment...lol


What particularly struck me about this epi was how well they showed the changes in RK...starting from the dance sequence where he is so obviously drawn to Madhu and would have kissed her if not for the interruption...that is how carried away he is becoming...and this was followed up later on in the bedroom scene at night as well after his little bhoot joke when Madhu sort of turns the tables on him and uses the Big Boss line to make him stay on the bed...and he gives in...even though he was about to leave the bed for that very awareness that is becoming stronger by the minute and he is still trying to avoid in some ways...but for her sake, he gave in and stayed on the bed...couldn't say no...and I also liked that touch of him sneaking a glance at her and then pretending to sleep when she turns to look back...


The ending scene again reinforces how much RK is drawn to her...watching her getting ready in the morning, and there is something different in his voice too...throughout the episode, there were noticeable changes in the tenor of his voice...especially the last scene where he isn't as sarcastic to her as he usually is...and the way he watches her now signifies a kind of shift too. 


All in all I quite liked how the developments were handled today...everything from the romantic moments to the bantering moments in the bedroom...it's quite ironic that Madhu seems MORE comfortable with him after the near miss kiss than she was post the Pareshaan realization with her all frazzled and awkward around him...lol


The Soap Mechanics that drive the Drama
By Bhakti and Myself
Originally posted by bhakti2
SD - so relieved to read your take.  I agreed with its every single point. 

 I know it makes me sound as though I must not be of flesh-and-blood, but the romance is the least motivating for me in this story. I don't mean that i don't think it is nice - what girl does not like romance? But this particular jodi is so psychologically twisty that I don't think the typical formulae sit well on them.

Like you, I am just confused.  What was with all the OTT drama livening up the chawl at, like...seven A.M.? (Where, of course, everyone is already perfectly dressed, each in their same thing that they have been wearing for the past two months as, I guess, all dhobiwallas have been having some lengthy mela somewhere and can't be bothered.) Could Padmini and Trishna have shouted any louder or more illogically? Now the whole chawl can start rendering opinions, curtain to curtain, as there is no one left there who doesn't know the whole story except the stone deaf.

And, like you, I could not really relax to the romance in the episode as the crescendoing brass section of foreboding was really starting to play in earnest. "You will come, won't you RK?  Dhoka na denge?" Haii Madhu, where did that even come from?  And join that sort of pati-doubting weirdness with Deepali's scheming face of certain doom (and dhoom) and the CV's penchant for twisting the track to the point of impassibility - and you have the anxious dhak dhak dhak of the budding love story about to go all kinds of wrong.

Also, I loved your point about RK's seeming passivity.  I have been wondering about this facet of the character for weeks, now. He is a giant superstar, a wounded child, a psychological textbook case - yet the CV's have not shown these themes to be galvanising. I do see that they have used his woundedness to explain his guarded heart - a very sensible thing.  But we see very little of his active decision making process. it takes him a long time to make up his mind to things - how long has he dwelt in the limbo of his home with those around him plotting and scheming each moment? Have things always been that bad and, if so, is losing his faith in humanity the best course of action he could come up with?  He lives in Mumbai...there are thousands of luxury flats he could choose from!  Perhaps Madhu will be his activating force - at the very least she has gotten him to come back to bed.

Well...anxious to read all the analyses that come in here - it is always such a pleasure! Just, for myself, leaning a little bit away from the swooning and more toward the "if something seems too good to be true...it probably is..."  Picture abhi bhaki hai, mere dost...waiting and watching!


Bhakti,
Loved your sarcasm ! especially the 7:00 AM and Dhobi part. LOL Me too. Yaar, I couldn't even become sarcastic, ek dum chuhiya ban gayi...un saari aurton ko dekh ke. 

My heart actually started palpitating when I saw Padmini and her OTT "MALIKKK...like Grrr" and Trishna like some bomb coming all charged up.
Dipali ke looks...tauba tauba...yaad na dilaana. 
And really...Madhu "Dhoka" ??? Yaar this girl always confuses me, especially when CVs start building new tracks and obviously she always is the driver of the drama, because it isMadhubala Ek Ishq Ek Junoon.  No person would actually no matter how much insecure they are, shall use the word "Dhoka" until and unless one is out and out negative or pessimistic person...and that too she said she believed that RK will come to break her fast. Madhu is a Haulon waali girl, psychologically they cannot let her use such words. They could have just made her say...Aa jaaohe na ...with doubt. That would have been more than enough for now... Anyways when did he even ditch her before that her SHAK started...Sigh!!

About the passivity of RK ...Bhakti, do you actually realize that infact this guy is the sole driver of this Indian soap where TRPs are driven by women. The CVs cannot forget TRP generating women and their requirements. Men's actions would not even be understood by these women. Trust me. Look at me today, how I palpitated. Men would actually feel something amiss and just get up from there. Once we were watching an Indian soap. So we were not giving remote to brother for that particular slot. So he got habituated for few days to sit with us waiting for his baari. As long as drama was entertaining he was okay. Then one day twists came...and all of sudden due to all round confusion, he went ballistic and yelled ...what's going on ? You made me a serial watcher...and he started wrestling for the remote. LOL!  Anyways, times are changing with atleast men getting meatier roles in Indian soaps unlike Ektaamma's soaps where men only get to commit second marriages or some other kind of ugly drama. So this RK atleast after lot of passivity, starts doing something.  Madhu will never let him leave RK Mansion. Nahin to Soap drama khatam ho jaayega. Big Sigh!!!! We are never actually going to see actual Production related info from the soap, one of the reason why one of my male friend stopped watching MEIEJ. He wanted to know behind the camera action in literal sense, as in what goes on with scripting, casting, shooting, the crew problems, the dynamics between cast & crew...but then this became a regular drama.

Originally posted by Bhakti2
Aaaugh - right before I post comment I just want to apologise to SD and everyone else here for taking up this much space because I am a stupid luddite who cannot for the life of me figure out how to cut and paste pieces of the desired quotation!  I keep trying and failing miserably.  If someone wishes to take pity upon me and explain I will be so grateful and together we will all save millions of cyber-trees. 

But meanwhile, SD, I see afresh what you are saying; I hadn't really thought about the "genderedness" of TRPs or the way characters would accordingly be written. Think of the mobius strip of it - here we have a male character who must be written to female tastes (making him behave in accordance with female fantasies but not with reality) but still resonate somewhat believably as male (although not like any male I've ever met, i.e. re his passivity). So are what we have here just really two sides of the female fantasy coin?  The perfect male and the perfectly reflected object of his gaze?  

Khair - your comment did make me wonder about myself - ki what is wrong with me that, even being quite the girl, I am thinking the same as your brother and your male friend who was frustrated with the lack of off-screen materials. It is hard for me to detach that portion of thought when I watch.  

So...not only am I a fail as a computer user, I am a fail of a female too!  Haiii...maybe it's time I fell upon an ice dagger and give the forum that much of relief!

Originally posted by 0-SD-0
Bhakti,

If FQ was here, she would have enjoyed your post. LOL!!!

Yaar, kya mast likha hai. There was a time, I used to think, may be I am not the female,  Upar se aur ghussa aata tha, jab jo ladka paas aata tha, apne gyan se usko door bhagana ho jata tha LOL I still feel sometimes, that I am this Trishanku, an idhar ki na udhar ki. Keep flitting between male and female worlds.

Last two para's are hilarious.

But the one above it JUST BRILLIANT. Yes exactly. That's what the reality it is "So are what we have here just really two sides of the female fantasy coin?  The perfect male and the perfectly reflected object of his gaze?  "

What we can do at best to keep our feet grounded is to read about real life men when we happen to start liking a character.  Btw, I was just talking to Zoya and I mentioned North and South. Did you read that ? Gaskell being a woman herself wrote the character of her hero quite convincingly as she was writing after real life experience of living in the cotton districts and watching the workers and their masters. So as long as writers research their subject, not a problem which gender writers. Problem is when the writers audience decides bulk of his creation. That's where artist's creativity is compromised.